Sunday, 5 May 2013

Belajar dari Pemilu Malaysia....

Ada beberapa poin yang bisa kita contoh dari Pemilu Malaysia.
Dari prespektif WNI yang menetap di Indonesia.
*      Hanya ada satu Pemilu dalam setiap periode. Pilihanraya Umum (PRU13) terdiri dari pemilihan anggota parlemen dan anggota Dewan Undangan Negri (DUN- setaraf DPRD). Pemimpin partai yg mendapatkan suara parlemen paling banyak di seluruh Malaysia berhak menjadi Perdana Mentri setelah direstui Yang Dipertuan Agong. Sedangkan pemimpin partai di tiap cabang negri (provinsi) yang memperoleh kursi DUN yang paling banyak berhak menjadi Mentri Besar (Gubernur) di negri (provinsi) yg dimenanginya setelah direstui Sultan negri masing-masing. Sistem ini tidak seperti di Indonesia yang membuat banyak pemilihan: Pilkada, PilPres, Pemilihan DPR, Pemilihan DPD, bahkan sampai ke pemilihan Pak Kepala Desa. Ini mengakibatkan banyaknya biaya anggaran yg dihabiskan untuk pemilihan pejabat saja. Dengan sistem 1 pemilu di Malaysia: Banyak dana yg dihemat, kampanye pun hanya dua minggu dalam 5 tahun. Tidak seperti di Indonesia yang saya perhatikan kampanyenya tiap hari.
*      TPS- tempat pemungutan suara dilokasikan di sekolah-sekolah di seluruh Malaysia, sehingga tidak ada istilah menyewa atau membuat TPS yang secara otomatis menghemat dana.
*      Calon anggota parlemen dan DUN yang tidak memiliki partai politik bisa mencalonkan dirinya sebagai calon bebas (Independen).
*      Setiap calon wajib membayar RM10000 (Rp30.000.000) sebagai deposit. Deposit akan hangus (hilang) jika calon tidak dapat mencapai 1/8 (12.5%)  suara. Ini untuk menghindari orang orang yang main main dalam mencalonkan diri. Deposit juga akan hilang jika calon melanggar aturan pemilu.
*      Pengitungan suara dilakukan secara online. Sehingga hasil suara bisa diumumkan pada malam itu juga.
*      Polisi dan anggota militer mengundi beberapahari lebih dulu.
Masih banyak lagi sebenarnya.. mungkin cukup untuk kali ini.. J
Berikut foto-foto suasana PRU di Malaysia:


Friday, 15 February 2013

Loving and Being Loved

Bringing love back into your life

When a person feels loved, he is loving towards others.

And people who give a lot of love, receive a lot of love. Love creates love. It can be great. 

But if I don't feel loved, then I can't be more loving, which makes me less lovable. It can be awful.

When I'm not feeling loved, I don't have much love to give. When I am not feeling loved, I want to receive.

I can't force myself to love another person any more than I can force someone else to love me.

It's circular. We can't love unless we're loved, and we (mostly) won't be loved unless we're loving.

When the cycle of love is working positively--you give love and receive it from the people you love--it's great, but how do you get it started again when it's been damaged?

To get the cycle of giving and receiving love started again and to keep it going during the hard times--and there will be hard times--we need to have love flowing in from outside of us. 

There is love available. God is loving us all of the time. His love is being poured out to us, all of the time. But we're usually insensitive to it. 

The way to get love flowing in a relationship again is, I believe, to be receptive to the love that God is giving us.
God sends his love to us through other people in little ways. Our job is to recognize it and receive it.

Others are not usually going to shower us with love, but they will sometimes respond to the little loving impulses that God is giving them. And we need to recognize this when it happens. 

Rather than grumbling over what we aren't getting, we need to see the love that is there. 

God also gives us little loving impulses, and our job is to act on them. 

He suggests small acts of kindness and gentleness. When we act on those, trusting God as we do so, we bring more love into our relationships, and into the world. 

Love comes in little ways, and we generally give love in little ways. 

As we learn to act on our little loving impulses, to recognize and receive the love that is being given to us, and as we are grateful to God for the love we do receive, it increases. 

We find ourselves giving more love and receiving more love. 

When we don't feel loved, it is hard to see beyond the negatives, beyond the ways in which we aren't loved. 

When we don't feel loved, we need God's help. There's no other solution. God is the source of all love. 

When we can't see the love around us, when we seem deaf to God's loving impulses, we need to ask God to help us. We need to ask him to help us experience his love and help us give his love to others. 

God wants us to receive his love. It comes freely. It is his gift to us. 

As we accept God's love for us, we have love to give to others, and the cycle of love begins again. 


Thursday, 29 November 2012

You Can't Fight Fire With Fire

Today, something happen in my class. I've a friend who can easily upset. When he's upset to someone, his friend want to reconcile. But I didn't know what he (the one who reconcile) did.. and lastly he told me that it become worse.. and he's sad about it.. later, I found this article about anger.. I don't know whether if this related to that's situation but I just wanna share with you.. Something about anger and how to cope with it.. may it become useful..

 You just can't do it; you can't fight fire with fire. You have to fight it with water. Anger is like fire, and it can quickly go out of control like fire too, if not kept under the correct conditions. But, when our anger - fire is out of control how do we put it out? Do we vent it? Does that help? Do we yell at the person we are mad at? Does that make the feeling of anger inside of us lessen? Do we punch things, does that make  the hot feeling inside become cooler? Frankly, I have to tell you that for me - it doesn't. I'm afraid that it just doesn't, that's all. Sometimes I wish that something like that worked, but it doesn't because you can't fight fire with fire. It just makes it hotter, the more fuel you add to the fire. I can actually feel the chemicals inside my body when I get that angry, and venting hot anger does NOT help.

However, I think I've discovered what does help. Now, I'm not saying this is easy to do. Or that I've perfected it yet. But, I'm trying. Here is the water - (if you can imagine - maybe meditate on it) - that I'm talking about: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Can we inculcate all of those qualities on our minds in meditation, and try to BE that way. Perhaps if we have those qualities in increasing measure we will quench the fires in our lives. If we don't it will only burn us up, because sometimes there isn't anything else we can do but let the neighbors fire run its course. But, we can control our own.


Tuesday, 6 November 2012

10 Things You Can Learn from Grandparents

"Perfect love sometimes does not come until the first grandchild."- Welsh Proverb

"If I had known how wonderful it would be to have grandchildren, I'd have had them first." Lois Wyse

Your parents may not have been perfect. In fact, since they were a product of their times, not to mention human, I'm sure they weren't.  But many not-so-great parents become very good grandparents. Why?

Grandparents have some privileges parents don't. In addition, life experience has given them some valuable gifts. As parents, we can learn a lot from them.  For instance:

1. They don’t feel responsible and berate themselves for everything the child does.  Wouldn't you be happier (and a more inspired mom or dad) if you could relax about whether you're a good enough parent?

2. They get a break to replenish their own cups. Obviously we can't give our kids to someone else and go home without them.  But we can find ways to take time for ourselves so we have something to give our kids.  If we don't, it's pretty challenging to be an inspired parent.

3. They don't undermine a close relationship by punishing.  Sure, you need to set limits, as in "We don't hit in this family" or "It's time for bed."  But punishment of any kind, including consequences and timeouts, always sabotages your relationship with your child and makes it more likely that he'll misbehave.

4. They have more emotional maturity and have learned something about what really matters in life. Often, grandparents have the maturity to let a child win an argument when a parent would need to prove she's right.  Grandparents are usually better listeners. Quite simply, grandparents are short on criticism and long on love.

5. They have learned that kids do grow up and become solid citizens. They've learned through tough experience that kids go through challenging phases and come out ok, so they can keep a sense of humor about the child's foibles.

6. They know how quickly childhood passes.  So they want kids on their laps as long as possible, they don't tell a child to stop acting like a baby, and they would never turn down a tea party invitation to wash dishes. In fact, after the tea party they find a way to make washing the dishes fun and get the grandchild involved.

7. They know what a treasure each child is. So they're more likely to appreciate the unique gifts of each child and be understanding about the challenges each child brings into the world.

8. They know you don’t get another chance. Most parents of grown children look back with some regrets.  They know you don't get a "do-over." They show up now.

9. They know life is short.  Grandparents have seen their share of both sadness and joy.  They know that sometimes all we can do is grieve together, and the rest of the time, why not seize every opportunity to revel in being alive?

10. They never run out of hugs and cookies. Life is tough, and we all need to be able to count on the sweetness of someone who wants nothing more from this moment than to sit and listen to us talk. Grandparents know what a gift that is -- and they love giving it as much as the child loves receiving it.
I know not all grandparents can reach this ideal. They're human too, after all.  But shouldn't we take the opportunity to learn what we can from it, and adjust our parenting accordingly?

It may be true that "Perfect love sometimes does not come until the first grandchild." 
I say, Why wait?


Wednesday, 24 October 2012

United Nation Day- October, 24th

UN Day marks the anniversary of the entry into force in 1945 of the UN Charter. With the ratification of this founding document by the majority of its signatories, including the five permanent members of the Security Council, the United Nations officially came into being.
24 October has been celebrated as United Nations Day since 1948. In 1971, the United Nations General Assembly recommended that the day be observed by Member States as a public holiday.
"We are living through a period of profound turmoil, transition and transformation. Insecurity, inequality and intolerance are spreading. Global and national institutions are being put to the test. With so much at stake, the United Nations must keep pace across the spectrum of its activities — peace, development, human rights, the rule of law, the empowerment of the world's women and youth."
Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon

Monday, 22 October 2012

Modifikasi mobil yang unik

Modifikasi mobil biasanya menampilkan mobil-mobil yang cantik atau yang canggih dengan aksesoris-aksesoris mahal. Tapi yang ini benar-benar bikin orang geleng-geleng kepala tapi bukan karena kagum dan berguman "luar biasa", melainkan "wong edan..."

VW Kodok Transparan

Idenya dari film Back to The Future

Mobil Berotot

Mobil Gangster dari Jepang

Mobil Kucing

Mobil Kardus

Kodok Jadi Kura-kura

Mobil Sepatu


Stop Cheating Yourself!

A student does not know any of the answers on a test. As he stares at the blank answer page, all the problems look blurry, and when the results come back, the student realizes that he failed. This is the situation for those who copy homework from others. They are not only cheating, they are not learning anything and will not be prepared for tests or quizzes. By using the work of others, they can ruin their grade as well as their future. It is not right to cheat when we all have the capability to do our own work. People should not receive rewards for the effort of others.

Most people have cheated at least once in their lives, whether it was for missed or incomplete work, or even just for credit that you didn’t deserve. But this is not right; in fact, it is unethical and unfair. Taking the work of others and using it as your own is not the right thing to do. It shows a lack of responsibility as well as a lack of knowledge. For example, if a student cheats using a classmate’s exam paper, he is taking credit for another’s work. If the tea-cher catches him, the consequences are usually failure.

Cheating by using the work of others is the same as ruining your life with drugs. It is not only unnecessary and foolish, it can also start to be addicting in many ways. If a student constantly cheats, then it may become a habit in the future. Besides, no one needs to cheat. We all have brains that we can use and also teachers, parents, and peers to help us. Anyway, it’s not like we will succeed in life if we continuously cheat. There is no need to ruin both your education and your life by cheating.

Cheaters usually suffer many consequences. In the beginning when the student is in grade school, cheating may only lead to losing credit and going to the principal’s office. In middle school, there will be Saturday detentions, suspensions, and even parent-teacher conferences. But in high school, college, and the rest of a person’s life, cheating will not be tolerated. If a college student uses a quote from a book or website and doesn’t cite where the information came from, that is plagiarism. This form of credit-taking does not just have minor consequences but can also land you in jail, ruin your record for certain jobs, tear apart your relationships with family and friends, and jeopardize your future.

Every day as you pass through a teen-infested hallway, there will be at least one person madly scribbling away on a piece of paper trying to match it with the one from their peers. This all can occur right before the bell signals the start of a new school day. Why do they have to do this? Will those extra 10 points have a huge impact on their grade and also remind them to do their homework in the future? The clear answer is no! Why can’t they just tell their teachers the truth? By copying, the cheater learns nothing and the teacher will never know if they copied their homework or if they did it themselves.

Of all things, taking credit for others’ work is not only unnecessary but quite unreasonable as well. If we all just do our work, then there is no need to cheat. We should make an effort for our education instead of taking the easy way out. But most important, if we all work hard instead of cheating, then everyone will live a prosperous and successful life.

This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. This piece has been published in Teen Ink’s monthly print magazine.